You are welcome to leave your anonymous quote in this comment section for consideration of the Unstoppable Mothers project. Please read below for the guidelines, and instructions on how to submit a quote.
We are Unstoppable Protective Mothers, whose children have been ripped from our arms and lives. We are joining our voices as one, to share our stories about family court abuse and corruption. Each heartbreaking tragic story, capturing loss and abuse, is told in our own words and accompanied by stunning photographs based on mother/child milestones missed in our lives. Because of the strong unconditional love we have for our children, we will NOT be stopped…we are UNSTOPPABLE!”
Welcome to PMA International’s ” Unstoppable Mothers”
Protective Mothers Alliance International (PMA) has launched “Unstoppable Mothers”, a powerful photo and essay project to give voice to Protective Mothers and their Children.
The photos depict the loss and grief a Protective Mother experiences when she is forcibly separated from her child(ren) due to family court injustice, or the events she missed in the life of her child.
The essays, in Protective Moms’ own words, are common real life family court situations. Protective Mothers reveal the most outrageous action a judge took in their case. , the Protective Mom shares what hurts her the most about not being in her child’s life, the Protective Mom shares abuser quotes-triggering statements and/or threats heard coming from the abuser and/or the Hero Protective Mom shares a quote about her experiences in Family Court, giving advice or expressing her feelings about what it is like living in the “trenches” of Family Court abuse and corruption.
HOW CAN YOU PARTICIPATE?
Protective Mothers may send quotes to the comment section below. PMA International will put the Unstoppable Mother’s quote on a sign and take a picture for the project. Your quote may be posted online, so please keep the comments general and do not include any identifying information.
What do mothers’ write about?
Mothers write about 4 subjects in the form of a quote;
#1.The most outrageous action a judge took in your family court case
20 words or less
Example: “I was thrown in jail by the Judge for trying to protect my children from their father’s beatings.”
#2. What hurts you the most about not being in your child’s life
20 words or less
Example: “I was not able to see you graduate from high school.”
#3 An Abuser Says/ Abuser Quotes
20 words or less – Triggering statements that your abuser has said to you and/or threats to your physical safety, your children’s physical safety, or threats of removing your children from your care.
#4 A Protective Mother Says/ Hero Protective Mother Quotes
20 words or less- You have heard from all the experts, an although we respect and value their input, few have been through the experiences of which they speak. Now hear from the Protective Mother- the true experts on family court abuse and corruption. Hear from those who live it every day- the Hero Protective Mom. Submit you quote about your experience in Family Court, give your advice or express your feelings about what it is like living in the “trenches” of Family Court abuse and corruption.
Moms may submit quotes for any or all subjects and subject combinations #1 , #2 , #3 and #4 or choose to submit just one quote from one subject, choosing subject # 1 ,or #2 or #3 or #4 There is no limit to how many quotes one mom may submit.
Please DO NOT include identifying information such as the name of your judge or other court professional, your location or contact information, your child’s legal name etc
We will either put the unstoppable mother’s quote on a sign, image or create a picture quote . In addition, the quote may be place on a related picture, taken and created by our talented PMA International Hero Protective Mom photographers.
All signs, quotes, and pictures will be posted on this Unstoppable Mothers’ blog along with most of our other internet venues.
Thank you for your participation!
Please Note: All quotes may be subject to editing by PMA International.
Unstoppable Mothers 
My ex-husband emotionally abused me until I could no longer function. He secretly filed for divorce and used my mental health status against me in court and won custody of my children.
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I suffered the same thing, then I got my kids back.When we were finally free DCF took them and placed them with their abusive uncle on my husband’s side!
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#2. What hurts you the most about not being in your child’s life
It hurts to see your empty chair at the dining room table. I miss playing airplane with your spoon. And making you treats. I don’t even know what foods you like now, or if you remember our dinnertime prayer.
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my heart hurts every day I am away from my children. it has been almost a year and I know how you feel. sometimes I feel so alone, that everyone around me doesn’t understand. remember you are not alone and children will never stop loving you and missing you.
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I honestly know how you feel. I still keep get clothes..knowing she has out grown them in 3 years. I wonder what kind of person she has grown into…and most of all I battle with self hate. I can’t seem to forgive myself for letting her down.
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I was put on supervised visitation trying to protect my children and myself from our abuser.
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I have had to learn to parent from a distance. My intuition led me to many things as in how I had to write letters to them in a way that explained to them who they are and that I trusted them to make the right decisions and know the consequences of their actions. They are on their journey and unlike the animal kingdom, this mama bear can only stay back until they learn the truth themselves.
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I respected the law, followed the process and won custody in my daughters . Then I obeyed the final court order by sending my children for visitation in his home state. That was over 3 years ago and I haven’t been allowed to see them since. His buddy, the judge, held a hearing to terminate my parental rights without notifying me .My ex-husband successfully devastated my life because he knew that obeying the law is optional and I didn’t.
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Those who play by the rules lose. Found this out the hard way. Integrity is meaningless in family court with narc batters.
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* How devastating this must have been for you. How does a mother ever get over something like this? That this is perfectly legal and caused by a pathological parent makes it no less evil.
I too lost custody of my oldest daughter – without even knowing that there was a petition brought before family court, without knowing that custody of my daughter was threatened, without me knowing that she did not want to come home, or a even concrete reason why. It happened suddenly and it completely blind sided me. She was being brainwashed without me knowing until it was too late. How can this be allowed to happen? It was either an incompetent judge or foul play, or both – I may never know what really happened. This loss paved the way for me to eventually loose custody of my remaining 3 children, never to return. This occurred between 13 – 15 years ago – my oldest is grown and married now. Our relationship died that day – she has been completely alienated from me ever since. I was not invited to her wedding.
At least now it is known what causes such a horrific, devastating thing to happen: pathological ex-husbands and mishandled family courts. At the time it happened, I knew something was wrong with the “system” but had no idea what it was. I could not afford an attorney. The terms “pathological parent”, “parent alienation”, “corrupt family courts”, “protective mother” were unknown then, not in existence. It was all a moot subject.
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What hurts me the most about not being in my children’s lives is the lesson that they have been taught: Only fools respect the law. Winners do whatever it takes to get what they want, no matter who it hurts.
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1.The most outrageous action a judge took in your family court case
Put me in jail for protecting my children, he walks free because he has money for the attorney fee, are you blind why can’t you see?
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I have been an invisible woman for almost 5 years: a survivor of Officer Involved Domestic Violence. I had to completely isolate myself from my children, friends, family- as my abuser used them as tools to track me down.
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My daughters who are not biologically relate to the abuser, were given to him, by the judge, after fighting for custody for three years. He continues to molest them and mentally abuse us all.
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Clarify: not biologically related to our abuser
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I trick or treated with my son’s friends wishing he was there but when I found out where he was I could not go near. He told me he didn’t go nowhere or get any treats. Instead he had to listen to daddy fight all night with his new mistress. I just prayed he was aware that my heart was waiting for him on that Halloween Eve. I love you and miss you boo.
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Solidarity.
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Because I was not able to see my oldest daughter turn 9 on her birthday, nor my younger daughter turn 8 on her birthday. Because when my younger daughter turned 5, the only way I could see her was by going to her preschool at lunchtime for 25 minutes. Because when the younger daughter turned 7, I was not allowed to see her. And when she turned 6, I was not allowed to see her. I was not allowed to see their gymnastic recital even though they asked me to go. Yet, when it is his birthday, he guilts them into sitting with him at a school assembly when they don’t have to—just because it’s his birthday. Because when he makes them promise that they will sit with him, they cry to me that I should not make them choose between he and I.
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After my ex-husband dragged me through 12 years of court to include using the court racket to judicially kidnap one of my sons initiated by his call into CPS that I had beat him every week his entire life, he then immediately filed for another son! I said, “Hell, no, you aren’t taking another son from me”, and I filed a Motion to Recuse All The Judges in our District Court. The Judge was so frightened that he did not award this son to him. I was able to keep him for 6 years, until he turned 18. Then he retaliated against me again by conspiring with a hospital and government officials to have me committed to a psych unit, where I was held for 18 days. They attempted to commit me and drug me long term to a mental hospital, but I was delivered again. He will not stop until I am dead.
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I was married to an abusive alcoholic… We have the most gorgeous, intelligent, amazing son…. He has custody of him after a judge REFUSED to hear any of his6 DV charges, front page headlines for beating me… Being DISBARRED (he IS an attorney) and I’m a house wife. He’s not only taken OUR son but cost me my other son and daughter from my previous marriage… I die a little more everyday without my babies. ALL I’ve ever been is a mommy.
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“He’s not only taken OUR son but cost me my other son and daughter from my previous marriage… I die a little more everyday without my babies. ALL I’ve ever been is a mommy.” Same with me. With permanent severe parent alienation, my once beautiful family no longer exists. They are all adults now. Even after 14 years, the huge hole is still empty – the grieving never ends.
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What hurts me most is missing out on mother/daughter milestones. I was not there to buy her her first bra. I was not there to help with her first period. I was not there to help her get ready for her first school dance. I will not be there for her first date. Those things have been stolen from me and can never be returned.
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These same things were stolen away from me too for my 4 daughters. True, what has been stolen can never be retuned. Parent alienation prevents a family from ever healing, from ever being a unit again. How can one vengeful, pathological parent have the power to completely destroy a once beautiful family?
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What hurts the most being completely absent from my 4 daughter’s lives: Not being able to be there as their nurturing mother when they were sick or needed comfort, not being there for first dates, driving lessons, or high school proms. Not being there for their birthdays, their high school or college graduations. Not even being invited to my oldest daughter’s wedding whom I had not seen or heard from in 11 years. Not being able to give them the opportunity for them to learn that they were used as pawns and brainwashed, or the truth about what really happened. The pain never ends.
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You cannot explain in a few short words what it is like to live without living, to love an empty space so deeply. A space where the eyes of my children once were. Removed from the country with no recourse to get them back. My heart beats but it died long ago.
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My ex-husband sexually abused my daughter. The court said there wasn’t “enough” evidence, so I put a recorder in the overnight bag to get the evidence. He took the recorder to the police and I was convicted for Felony Wire-tapping. I am felon and he still gets to see our daughter every week.
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Am i doing something wrong? He’s hit them, used excessive physical force on them, called them names, called me names, and yet I feel like I’m doing something wrong in filing for custody. For over a year, the kids have been saying they don’t want to go with him, that he’s always mean to them, always yelling at them and always calling them names. So, why do I feel like I’m in the wrong to be trying to do something to stop it?
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Without any evidence presented for his comments, the judge called me a bad mother, and gave the father, a man with a criminal record throughout his adult life, who had never supported the child in any way or spent time with her, was verbally and emotionally abusive toward her, who abused her physically, but without leaving marks, even at supervised visitation in a public place, and who said he did not want to be with the child unless I came along, extended unsupervised visitation.
I had always followed court orders to the letter, the father had not. Nonetheless, the judge said that if he perceived that I was not enthusiastic about carrying out the order, and if the baby did not show love and attachment to the father, he would take her away from me entirely. And he ordered me to stop breastfeeding her
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Me and my husband are married we have seven children. We’ve been dealing with children and youth for 3 1/2 years I’ve been made fun of as judge called me a name due to my mental diagnosis. I’ve been alienated from my daughter I’ve been through three attorneys because nobody will fight children and youth.
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My child’s father planned and tried to murder me. He was charged with attempted murder, but got away with it because he completely lied and said it was self-defense. I have to send my child 3-4 times a week to see the man who nearly murdered me…while I live in fear every day that he will try again. This is the most outrageous action a judge took in my case.
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Hi I’ve had 5 children illegally taken.an these officials are even putting child abuse on my record where I didnt have them in my custody..My question is…How does a mother Protect her Children When the Law Failed me an my child?I can’t even protect myself cause they do whatever they want to Families here.What is a Mother to do??? Thank you for your time an patience.A concerned mother for her children and Familiy..God Bless!!!
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A judge yelled at my children and told them they had to live with their father, after he was charged twice w domestic abuse and DUI. She stated ” I know plenty of alcoholics and alcoholics are functional” then yelled at me and told me I was brain washing my children to hate their father! Omg where does this end??? Yes they learned their father was an ABUSIVE ALCOHOLIC. all of the hARD work the children, myself and their therapist put into helping the children identify abuse and safety I have always encouraged the children to respect and love their father and reasuring them that their father loves them. I was punished for telling the truth about domestic violence and alcoholism.
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The Justice on our file ordered that my children be separated from me so I could “see how it feels to be separated from your children”. He placed them in the custody of their abusive father and punished me for speaking out about the abuse.
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The “family” court system forced me to give temporary custody to my ex-husband when I deployed overseas to defend my country! He is a convicted drug dealer and violent offender with a history of DV against me, child neglect against my children and weapons charges. He’s not even a legal citizen! He continues to drive without a license and gets pulled over. He’s pending jail AGAIN, in March. He has over 30 criminal cases in his adult life, but he was able to win custody of my teenage daughter over me… an AF Reservist, combat veteran, highly educated, stay at home mom! He even took me to court for me cs while I was pregnant and on bed rest! I don’t know who or what these systems are trying to protect bcuz its certainly not our children! My daughter has since run away from his abuse and is living in transitional housing for the time being! He retains custody until I can get her emancipated. She’s in another state so I can’t just pick her up as she’s finishing high school… L.R
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What kills my very soul is that I lied to my son. And his father made good on his “promise.” I told him that if he told the social worker and police the truth, they would protect him. But his dad told him if he told anyone, the police would take him away from me…they did. He told me I would pay for leaving, but really my son is paying the price. It’s been a year and a half and my son is suffering alone without me or his family.
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