Merry Christmas to The Quintessential Hero- The Protective Mother

Of all the rights of woman, the greatest is to be a mother― Lin Yutang

As we once again face the holidays, many protective mothers are without their precious children. The pain of having to live a life under these circumstances is unbearable.

We know because we also live it.

In times like this our grief and loss is felt three fold. Once for ourselves, once for our children and once for all the other protective mothers and children who one day found themselves in a nightmarish club of mothers in which they never wanted a membership- the Protective Mother.

In times like this we wish we could reach through our computers and give you a big warm nurturing hug. We wish we had a magic wand to wave and bring your children back. We wish we could erase the memory of the trauma and pain for both you and your children, heal you and make you whole and happy again.

If we could speak to your estranged child we would let them know how very special their mother is.

How she fought for you when she had nothing left in her to fight. How she spent years, and in some cases, decades putting her life on hold sacrificing her happiness, health and finances just to protect you from control, and abuse while keeping you safe in her arms.

Day after day dealing with attorneys, who betrayed and demeaned her, while quickly and greedily devouring her finances. Appearing in court before Judges who bullied and controlled her. Attending endless meetings with Evaluators, Therapists and Guardian Ad Litems who make her jump through impossible, and inhumane high hoops that your other parent was not forced to jump through.

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Did she jump? Oh yes. Over and over and over again your protective mother twisted herself up, denied her pain , took the torture and abuse with a quiet smile on her face and a small exasperated sigh.

Lied on repeatedly , humiliated and abused your mother soldiered on, just for you- for the unstoppable, unconditional love your protective mother has for you runs deeper than anything you can ever imagine.

Isn’t this what heroes do? Heroes absorb the pain take the abuse and live the sacrifice, for the greater good. In this case , the greater good was protecting you.

We would tell these children that their mother is not just any mother, she is not just a single mother. Your mother is all that, yet so much more. Your Protective Mother is a beautiful light in this dark world, she is a warrior for truth and justice, she is an angel of love.

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Yes, the greatest right for a woman is to be a mother, but for women who had this right unjustly stripped from them due to corruption, misogyny, ignorance, and greed, they had to claw , dig and sustain the deepest of wounds that may never heal from their nobel fight.Your Protective Mother was fueled by the fire of her deep love for you burning in her heart and soul. Your Protective Mother attempted to regain this right so both of you can be happy together, loving each other in peace and free from all forms of control and abuse. Your Protective Mother is not just any mother, she is a super mother -the quintessential hero.

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For all the Protective Mothers this Holiday who are without their precious children, PMA International wants you to know- you have our love, respect, support and understanding – always. Here’s to a better New Year.
The PMA International Team

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Hero Protective Moms, you have our love and support, always.

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How Does A Person Become Responsible For Being A Victim? (Photography and Quote)

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#1 The most outrageous action a judge took in your family court case

“The judge exposed me, a DV victim, to addicts and people with aggressive tendencies to comply with Court mandated meetings and classes. I have been forced to relive the trauma of being a victim, until I accepted responsibility for being a victim.

How does a person become responsible for being a victim?”

Unstoppable Mothers © 2017

 

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Santa Story Time ( Photography and Quote)

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#2 What hurts you the most about not being in your child’s life

“What hurts me the most about not being in my children’s lives;

Our tradition of going to our local library to see the Christmas Santa display.

Enjoying story time as we gather around the Santas to have the library storyteller read all the classic Christmas Stories to my children as they and sit and snuggle on my lap.

Why are these tender milestone moments stolen from us by Family Court? These special moments between a mother and child can never be replaced.”

Unstoppable Mothers © 2015

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A Protective Mother’s Halloween Nightmare ( Photography and Quote)

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“It was Halloween night. My children just left for trick or treating. A big container filled with candy was by my door. I was in costume ,excited for this fun Holiday. A knock on my door made me smile as I grabbed a big fistful of candy to give to the neighborhood children. I opened the door to 2 police officers who handed me a court order and took my children away to my x ‘s house. The judge’s surprise exparte order ,based on a bought fake evaluation, by my wealthy, corrupt x snatched my children on Halloween night. Halloween was truly my worst nightmare coming to life, and the  nightmare continues.”

Unstoppable Mothers © 2016

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It Was Like Living In A War Zone (Photography & Quote)

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#1 The most outrageous action a judge took in your family court case

 

“The Family Court judge

denied my petition for relief 

to order my abusive ex out of the home…

 

The judge then ordered

shared residential custody,

leaving me homeless 50% of the time.

 

Being a stay at home mother with no assets,

I had to constantly scramble to find a place to stay

over a hellish 2 1/2 year time period,

while still dealing with abuse

it was like living in a war zone.”

 

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I Lost Custody of My Children to an Abusive Narcissist (Photography & Quote)

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#1 The most outrageous action a judge took in your family court case

 

“Over several years of divorce proceedings

and numerous custody battles,

the judge consistently ruled

against all my petitions.

I eventually lost custody

of all my children,

to an abusive narcissist

resulting in severe,

permanent parent alienation.”

 

Unstoppable Mothers © 2016

 

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Protective Mother-Felon( Photography and Quote)

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#1 The most outrageous action a judge took in your family court case

” My ex-husband sexually abused my daughter. The court said there wasn’t ‘enough’ evidence, so I put a recorder in the overnight bag to get the evidence.

He took the recorder to the police and I was convicted of Felony Wire-tapping.

I am a felon and he still gets to see our daughter every week.”

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“Those Things Have Been Stolen From Me and Can Never Be Returned…” (Photography and Quote)

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#2 What hurts you the most about not being in your child’s life

What hurts me most is missing out on mother/daughter milestones.

I was not there to buy her her first bra.
I was not there to help with her first period.
I was not there to help her get ready for her first school dance.
I will not be there for her first date.

Those things have been stolen from me and can never be returned.

Unstoppable Mothers © 2015

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